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TRANSFORM YOUR LIFE
Destination: Excellence
You've decided to improve your life. You want to be successful. Where do you start? Do you begin with a new relationship, with a new career, or move to a new city? The answer is none of these, for there is one constant: you. Wherever you go, there you are. The same you will be there, wherever you choose to go, whoever you're with, whatever you choose to do. The place to begin your life improvement project is at the beginning with your own self esteem.
Most of us find it easier to overlook the mistakes of others, yet continue to be hard on ourselves. As if there wasn't enough in the present to attend to, we often insist on dredging up the past to torment ourselves. When you cannot change the outcome of conditions that you wish were otherwise, all you can change is your attitude towards it. With sound self esteem you no longer find it necessary to place value judgments. You would no sooner judge another than you would judge yourself. The most important element is to be Aware. Aware of and awake to what is going on in your life.
If you pick up a fork to eat dinner and then discover you're having soup, you don't insist on eating with a fork. No one would. You would change your utensil for a spoon. Yet often we stick with a poor decision we've made, even though we know there is a better choice available. Change is how we make progress. To resist change is to miss opportunities. What is the most prevalent fear that keeps us from making a change? Fear of failure. Fear of mistakes. Yet to not even try is failure already, and mistakes are only lessons.
Whether it is a physical fender bender or an emotional heartbreak, the situation exists for us to get the lesson. Once we extricate the lesson from the turmoil, the experience is free to leave us. As long as we choose to judge it by hating, resenting, or ignoring it, it will remain. When it becomes neutral, being neither good nor bad, the emotion binding it to us is loosened, and it is free to go. In any difficult situation, ask yourself what the experience is trying to teach you. Underlying it is a fear. Discover what the fear is, reason out why it is in your life, and it will lose its power and cease to exist.
You always have that choice to change your thinking to change the conditions of your life. Every moment, with every choice, you create your life every day. There are no wrong choices. You can be just as happy as you make up your mind to be. The point is to learn and grow from your experiences, both pleasant and not so pleasant. Love yourself for you have value. Treat others with the same respect. The more secure your self esteem, the better you can treat yourself and others. Improving your self esteem will improve your life and our world.
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